Do’s and Don’ts of Getting Divorced
So, you’ve come to the conclusion that it’s time to get a divorce. While couples end their marriage for a multitude of different reasons, there are certain do’s and don’ts that are applicable to all couples going through a divorce.
Let’s discuss what you should and should not do both during and after your divorce.
What to do During a Divorce?
DO Familiarize Yourself With The Legal Process
Having a general understanding of how the divorce proceedings will go will help you to feel less overwhelmed by the process. Read up on child custody, support, alimony, asset division, and the topics that will likely come up as you work through the logistics with your soon-to-be-ex.
DO Find A Good Divorce Attorney
You may be surprised how choosing the right attorney can significantly impact the outcome of your case. Do your research and find the right attorney for you.
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DO Stay Respectful Toward Your Spouse
Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, this could be a complicated one. However, if you have children, your spouse is going to be in your life for a long time - whether you want them to be or not. Set a positive tone for your relationship going forward as co-parents by showing respect for one another.
DO Plan Ahead
Come in with a plan for what you want. You will likely need to be flexible and negotiate, but it’s a good idea to figure out what terms would be ideal for you. When thinking about this, also think about what you are willing to give up.
DO Keep Busy
There will be days that you lack the motivation to do anything - and that’s okay! But don’t let the majority of your days become days of doing nothing. Create a routine for yourself, exercise, go shopping, spend time with friends and family, or anything else that keeps you and your mind occupied.
What Not to do During a Divorce?
DON’T Let Your Emotions Take Over
When going through a divorce, strong emotions are inevitable. However, it’s important not to let them control your actions. This could result in making decisions without thinking about the consequences first.
Also, you could behave in a way that hurts your case. For example, acting aggressively toward your ex could hurt your case for child custody.
DON’T Involve Your Children
Most people can agree that involving children in a divorce is something you should avoid doing. However, this can be easier said than done. Be cautious of what you say around your children; steer clear of the topic of divorce.
Instead, focus on spending quality time with them and ensuring that they also feel supported during this difficult time.
DON’T Violate Any Court Orders
This goes for both during the divorce proceedings and after the divorce is finalized.
Preventing your ex from seeing the children
Not paying your child support or spousal support
Breaking a no-contact order
If you are unable to make any court-ordered payments, request a modification. This is better than simply not paying.
DON’T Make Any Agreements Without Consulting Your Lawyer
It’s best to keep your attorney informed about any decisions you are thinking about making. They can provide further guidance about potential consequences or next steps.
DON’T Lose Hope
Divorce is hard, but you will get through this. Seek support from family and friends and remember that you are not alone. In fact, it is estimated that over 850,000 couples get divorced each year. Take the time you need to mourn your marriage, but don’t lose hope for the bright future ahead.
Omaha Divorce Attorneys
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